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Hey family! Marshaun Olaniyan here, your favorite Life and Relationship Strategist. I help single women figure out the tools and strategies needed in order to attract and keep the man she wants.
Good and bad options. We can choose to date locally, nationally and even internationally if we want to. You might be a dating pro and consistently succeed at getting the man, however, it becomes a whole new ball game once the relationship starts. Well, today I am devoting my time to debunking all the myths we have heard as women about how to keep a man happy.
Because truth is, most of us have done it all and still lost the guy.
Ask dr. sherry: 'why can't i keep a man?'
To the point that most of us have practiced twerking like Amber Rose or Black China before. For some reason, culture has conditioned us to believe that great sex is a prerequisite to keep a man interested or even worse than it is what will get you the man in the first place. And for most, a relationship is not necessary in order to still that hunger. What does that mean for the girl that thinks she has to sleep with a guy in order to keep him?
Why you can’t find and keep a man
It means that for most men an emotional connection is not necessary in order to have a physical connection. But it is the emotional connection that makes them want to commit to you.
So, if you believe that sex is how to keep a man interested long-term then you are mistaken. Being nice is my personal Achilles heel.
Do men want to be with someone that makes them feel good and safe and cared for? Is that what will keep him? Not if it comes at your expense. If you think being nice means allowing a man to overstep your boundaries, compromising on your values and standards, and always leaving the door a crack open so that he knows you are there for him no matter how he treats you, then you are mistaken. Men respond positively to women that have a sense of identity, morals, and personal boundaries.
There is nothing wrong with being a nice person to others, as long as you are being nice to yourself first.
Why you can’t find and keep a man
Research proves that men gravitate more to women that they consider to be nurturing. It makes them feel safe and allows them to connect to you emotionally. And cooking is definitely one of the ways they experience nurturing. However, cooking alone is not how you keep a man hooked.
Especially, if there are Hello Fresh and dozens of other easy-to-follow meal kit delivery services nowadays. Cooking, at the end of the day is not what makes you special as a woman. What makes you special is you and cooking is a nice add-on.
We all know what it feels like when you first start to fall for a guy. You want to make sure that you appeal to him. So you put on the clothes you think he will like. You do your hair in a cute hairstyle you think he will like and you talk about topics you think he will like.
I can't keep a man.
You basically shift to the best version of yourself that you believe he will like. Nothing wrong with that, right? The problem comes in when you change up your appearance, your behavior, and your interests in order to appeal to him. In contrast to common belief, becoming more of the person you think he wants you to be and being less of the person you really are, will not keep a man.
Because he will sense that you are being inauthentic and your connection will be off. Men want to feel like themselves around the woman they are with and the only way to facilitate that is when you are yourself too.
If none of you is able to be real and vulnerable with each other then your relationship will remain superficial and you will lose his interest. We started with a bang and we are going to end with a bang.
Myth 5 is the most disturbing one. And that is that you assume having a baby with a man will make him stay. Unfortunately, many women still hope that adding a whole human being to the mix is what will brainwash a man into committing to them. While having a baby will bond the two of you together for the rest of your lives, his commitment will be to his.
And that does not necessarily include romantic love for you. Because the reality is, that having a baby adds pressure and stress to a relationship. And no matter how much a man loves his child it is not a bargaining chip to his longterm commitment.
Why can’t i keep a man in my life?
So if you believe trapping a man with to keep him, then he obviously does not want to be kept in the first place. It is safe to say that if a man does not want to be tied down, then there is nothing a woman can do to change his mind.
You cannot buy his love, force his love, or trick him into love. Justine is a certified dating, relationship and life coach who has been blogging on justinemfulama.
Her purpose for this site is to help women attract and maintain a godly relationship, by teaching self-love, mastery of the mind and confidence. Her dating advice and relationship advice is faith-based but practical and sourced from her own and other people's life experience. Pin 7.