Greece is the land where you laze about on hot summer days and let your wild side out at night. Come to Greece! No problem! Everyone in Greece is broke all the time! But money is to be spent, and those Greek men sure like to spend it on a pretty tourist! Being a Greek-American, I have come to know Greece both as a tourist and as a resident citizen. To the tourist Greece can seem like Paradise, but when you Men here, it often seems more like Purgatory. As a woman, I have come to the sad conclusion that there is little respect for women as people in Greece.
There is passion for the feminine, but no real love for the female, admiration for the lady, but contempt for the woman. An educated woman is doomed in the face of a sweet ignorant greece, the experienced one scores far fewer points than the innocent.
The Greek woman, however, knows the rules, and the clever ones play the game to their own advantage. Women in Greece are trained to make a good catch. If you are determined to get involved with a Greek man, there are several rules you should follow. First, it is imperative that he NOT still live with his mother. Second, not only should he not live with his mother, but she should live as far away as possible. Rules 1 and 2 are the most important because it is virtually guaranteed that as the wife of a Greek man, you will despise all mothers-in-law in no time flat.
You will quickly realize that even if your husband thinks he loves you, it is really just taken for granted by him and his entire kin that you are one of his appendages. Third, your man of choice should be educated in a foreign country or well-traveled, preferably both. And fourth, be sure you truly understand how your prince feels about women.
As proof he offered, "There are so many more published male authors than female. When I saw him last he was reading Freud. God help us! A conversation with a lawyer friend of mine left me even more disappointed.
This young man whom I believed to be open-minded, with great depth and intelligence, casually explained that for a Greek man there are two kinds of women: the ones that bring out great passion and with whom every man desires a tumultuous love affair, "and the ones that you marry. And he is living it out. He had his tumultuous affair with an incredibly beautiful and vibrant woman throughout his years at university. Why did he marry her? First, a wife is essential for having a family, particularly a son to carry on the family name. Second, Men comes from greece "good" family, meaning that her existence as his wife will be beneficial both to his career and to his wealth, for Greek women are usually provided with property, the essential bargaining tool for a good marriage.
If you expect that handsome Greek husband to be be faithful, think again. While extramarital affairs can be a potential problem anywhere, in Greece it is the status quo for the male partners.
Still driven by beliefs of the 19 th century, most Greek men take for granted that they have far greater sexual needs than women, thereby excusing their extra-curricular activities. Our friend, Akis, for example, maintains that while there is not a chance of his ever being faithful to his wife, he would never forgive his wife one night of passion with another man. He is not alone in his convictions.
This is how the average man in Greece thinks. These criticisms may seem a bit harsh, but they are not inaccurate. The average Greek man may be looking for a companion, but he is certainly not looking for an equal partner. He wants a woman to support his image, make his coffee, cook his dinner, wash and iron his clothes, raise his children, and when necessary, massage his ego so that he still feels like a man.
In fact, it has been my experience that the average man in Greece is threatened by a woman showing any kind of strength. In an era when two incomes are often necessary for survival, it is of course acceptable for a woman to work, even to have a career.
And if you are a woman with a little muscle tone, you are doomed to a dateless future. You will inspire awe, but not commitment. As one year-old man explained to me, if I want to find a man I have to look less independent.
You look too strong and greece. Imagine that! Unfortunately, the employment experience for a foreign woman in Greece is on par with the dating scene. Beware the snare of clever employers that will lose no time in taking advantage of your ignorance of labor laws in Greece. If you find work through an employment agency in your own country, your rights will usually be protected, but venture out on your own and you are sure to be exploited. At one interview for an administrative position in a school, I was asked by my male interviewer how I would handle sexual harassment coming from my boss in other words, himself versus an overture by the janitor.
In general, as a woman in Greece, foreign or not, you will be overworked, underpaid, and easily replaced unless you have something very special to offer. In some ways, Greece is no Men to women than to men. To make money in Greece, you must do it illegally. Those who record their incomes honestly are usually rewarded by the government with a huge fine for some honest mistake in their books.
Illegality is so much a part of the system in Greece that if you own a business of your own, every 3 years the tax office I call them the Tax Mafia offers to let you pay a nice little sum starting at around euros for small businesses up front and thereby avoid being audited.
Why pay the euros needed for the mandatory driving lessons when you already know how to drive and can pay someone half that to get a proper from an employee of the Ministry of Transportation? Need your car to pass inspection? You come out cheaper and far less hassled if you just pay someone who works there to pass it for you.
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Try to do things the proper way in Greece and you will be strangled by red tape and gagged with fines. Shopping on the black market is also a necessity if you are trying to live on a Greek salary. Why pay almost 3 euros for a pack of cigarettes when you can buy a carton of 10 for only 10 euros? But whether you smoke or not, buying something in this manner is an interesting experience. After weeks of walking past women furtively calling out "Tsigara!
After looking me up and down, one of the a women firmly told me to wait while she ran off to a public trash bin, dug out a carefully covered blue plastic bag, and from there extracted a carton of my brand. Last week I learned that the smugglers had been caught and a huge supply of their untaxed cigarettes had been seized.
Having learned to drive in the US, I never run red lights, and I do at least yield at stop s, but driving in Athens will bring out the rebel in just about anyone. I wonder how Athenians will fare with all these strict new traffic laws enacted temporarily for the Olympics?
Of course, it is easy to criticize Greece and its people, and one must remember that Greece is a small country going through many changes at a fast pace. It is only 30 years that Greece has been free from a dictatorship preceded by wars and famine. Acceptance into the European Union has spurred even further progress. And, inevitably, as economic and political stability increase, value systems begin to change as well though this is a much slower process in Greece!
As a result, Greece today is an interesting and frustrating combination of the old and the new, and it can take a lot of courage to live in this enigmatic land. Greece, like its men, can break your heart. And so you come back, missing this land desperately, needing to feel the caress of its breezes on your skin, to taste the salt of its turquoise seas on your lips, to wish upon its abounding shooting stars on cool summer nights.
You come back, and spellbound, you decide to stay. Just beware, Greece is not the postcard it seems. Stephanie Kordas Click to see her web.
But to the young, unsuspecting tourist, this charm is real and can feel extremely romantic. But is the grass really any greener? The Rules of Dating If you are determined to get involved with a Greek man, there are several rules you should follow.
Do you really want to walk down that isle? The Working Woman in Greece Unfortunately, the employment experience for a foreign woman in Greece is on par with the dating scene.
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