Posted by Carolina Jan 28, Marriage When I was little, I always dreamed about my wedding day…walking down the aisle in my big white wedding dress and my prince charming waiting for me at the altar.
So magical! Many of us had those same dreams when we were little. But once you get married you realized that marriage is not a fairy tale all the time. There are days that are not as magical as we hoped.
Traits of a godly wife
But even with christian days that are not so magical, your love, your husband, and your marriage are worth fighting for. For the Christian wife, the center of their marriage is Christ, for a normal wife, the center of their marriage is the love that they have for their husband. So, our love for our husbands should not based on them but centered on Christ, and He is the best foundation to build on.
In order to become a better wife, we must focus on ourselves first. Many times we come to God complaining about our husbands and asking God to change them into the men that we want them to be. But how about us? We are always so quick to think that other people have to good in order for things to get better.
The truth is, it all starts with us. Instead of accusing our husbands before The Lord we should come with a different attitude. That should be our attitude. When we draw near to God, He draws near to us and we become more like Him.
This change is the most important step you can do to become a better wife. When we pray with faith we can see change. The bible tells us that prayer is powerful. Praying with faith moves wives, create miracles, heals broken marriages, mends broken hearts, and makes the impossible become possible.
Never underestimate the power of prayer.
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Please understand that everybody yes, husbands, kids, moms and d included will let you down. There is only one that will never let you down and his name is Jesus. After Jesuseveryone else will fail you. The children of God are led by the Spirit of God. So many times we get into arguments and fights that could of been avoided if we would of listened to the Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit is always talking, He always guides us. But if you really want to be a better Christian wife you must listen to the guidance of the Holy Spirit because sometimes marriage is not easy.
If you have a hard time listening to The Holy Spirit, ask in prayer to have ears that hear the voice of God and when you hear it, be obedient. It will save you a lot of headaches and heartaches.
How to be a good wife (in god’s eyes)
I read a story not too long ago written by a wife, her story was about how it always bothered her the way her husband would leave his shoes and clothes all over the house. This situation was the cause of many arguments and disagreements between them. But things changed the day her husband lost his life in a tragic car accident.
Seeing all the clothes on the floor and the shoes everywhere she realized how she always focused on the negative instead of the positive. Those clothes on the floor ified that she had a husband, that he loved coming home and getting comfortable in the nest that they built together. Those shoes ified the hurting feet of a man that worked very hard to make sure his family had everything they needed. She remembered all the times she complained and oh how much she regrets now realizing too late that all those small things were not worth fighting for.
Now she wishes her husband would walk through the door and drop his shoes and his clothes wherever he wants.
Because now she understands that having him there was the only thing that was really important. But instead of always looking at those things how about you replace them with all the things that he does right? How about we look at the positive and not the negative? How about instead of complaining we give thanks?
The bible tells us that God loves a grateful heart. When we are grateful, we become a positive person. Be grateful for your husband and for the blessing of having him in your life one more day. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Choose to love him the way the God described love in 1 Co A selfish love that gives, that forgives, that serves, that endures all things and is always there with a kind and loving word.
This kind of love changes people, fixes problems, heals broken hearts and broken marriages, is the God kind of love. Having a best friend is priceless and having your husband or your wife be that best friend is even more beautiful. Be the kind of friend you would like your husband to be for you.
I found a few biblical characteritcs of a friend. The Holy Spirit will help you if you ask Him. In order to become a better christian wife we also have to focus on sex.
Sex is very important in marriage, it is more than just a physical connection. It is deed by God. For a husband and wife, the sexual act is the focal point, the symbol, and the physical expression of the leavingthe cleavingand the becoming one flesh Genesis that define the very essence of marriage. To put it another way, sex is like the glue that uniquely bonds a husband and wife together. It places their relationship in a category apart from any other human relationship. Just enjoy your husband and be happy when you guys are intimate.
Always praise the good and speak highly of him. Motivate him, encourage him, be quick to have a word of life that will bring him up when he feels down. Pray and support his projects and ideas and speak life over them. Let him know that no matter what happens, you are always there to wife him on. Words have good, God created the worlds with just the words of his mouth. The bible tells us that life and death are in the power of the tongue. So, speaking words of life over your husband bring to pass the blessing that is already his as of God.
Instead of confessing failure or defeat, instead of saying how ungodly your husband is, or how lazy or messy or disorganized he is, speak the word of God over him, speak words that will bring him up and not down. These are a few examples of confessions that your can say over your husband. But not christian say them, also believe them.
See him like God sees him and those words will come to pass. But there a few simple things that you can do everyday to look more beautiful than you already are.
How to forgive yourself
You know, Jesus saw your husband and saw all the bad things in him and He thought that your husband was worth dying for. To God, your husband is someone that He loves with all His heart. He is a man that was made with a purpose. He was made to glorify God and to make this Earth a better place. He is the man God uses to bless you and your family.
He is the head of the house and He has a great responsibility before the Lord. Ask God to help you see your husband the way that He sees him. See the man that God sees, because we walk by faith and not by sight.
Also, be quick to forgive your husband when he has done or said something wrong. Remember that we must forgive in order to be forgiven. If you want to learn how to be better at something then you must study and learn about it so you can master it! The best place for you to find good about being a better Christian wife and about marriage is the Bible.
There is no christian book out there than the book God gave us. In marriages, just like in life, sometimes we go through seasons. Some seasons are good and some are not so good. The bad times can be many different scenarios and not all the marriages go through the same ones. Some may go through sicknesses, some through financial problems, some through infertility, some through infidelity, etc. You made a covenant pact before the Lord, you agreed that in the good times and in the bad times you were going to stick together.
Hang on to Jesus and endure, and persevere and before you know it that season will pass. I hope this post is a blessing to your life, wife it with a friend that may need it and if you want to read about tips for a happy marriage just click on the link. Finally, if you have any advice on how to be a better Christian wife leave a comment and let me know. Born in Costa Rica. Wife and mother of 2 boys. Helping you and encouraging you to develop a personal relationship with the Lord so you can live a beautiful kingdom life.
So much wisdom here, Carolina! And I especially love the confessions for our husband. I especially love the idea of praying to be the wife he needs instead of trying to fix him.